To encourage more Christian singles to write to you on ChristianCafe.com,
review the following ideas for creating an appealing dating
1) Be specific when filling out your profile rather than writing
general responses which are more difficult to relate to.
Consider the following answer to what kind of person you are:
"I have a good sense of humour, enjoy moonlit walks
along the beach and fine dining. I am a Godly person."
Now consider the following, more appealing response:
"I really enjoy hiking up to a hill near my house,
looking out over the city lights and would love to share
the view with someone special. I LOVE amusement parks and
there are quite a few within hours' drive from my place.
Are you the type of person who likes RollerCoasters? I love
the excitement and thrill of it all! I really like the church "family" at
my church and we have a lot of great times and get-togethers.
Would love to have someone special to share in my passion
of getting to know God better and sharing His wonders and
promises with. I LOVE talking about advances in science and
how they continually point to God's power. What really gets
your blood pumping about God or Nature?"
TIP: Add a question or two in your answers
which others might be able to answer for you. This will offer
other Christian singles the chance they may be looking for
to write you!
2) If you have interests or things you are passionate about,
tell others about them!
People who have interests are viewed as interesting
If you really like gardening; if you like Big Cats like lions,
tigers, hyenas, jaguars, etc; if you really enjoy cooking Thai
cuisine or eating Ethiopian food; if you love the Maple Leafs
or local Rugby team or going to your son's Little League games;
if you love going to Bible camp and laughing with other Christians
and spending time learning more about one another and how we
can grow closer to Christ; include this in your profile
and tell others why you enjoy it!! Mention what has
shaped or changed your life. This will help paint a more accurate
picture of yourself.
If your passion means that much to you, you will want your
mate to at least support you and listen to you as you ramble
on about it :)
Be careful however, not to ramble on too much on one topic.
You do not want to appear one-dimensional :) Save the extra
information for your correspondence with others.
3) Smile when you are writing
When we smile and write, it shows! It tells others you are
happy and well adjusted, and that you would be an excellent
person to share one's life with. Who wants to meet someone
who sounds like they just stubbed their toe?? Be aware of how
you might appear to others.
If you were someone else reading your dating profile, would
you want to correspond with you? Use your profile to display
your sense of humour in a tasteful manner. Humour generates
interest. Smiling and writing does not apply just to your written
answers in your profile, but also in the letters you send out
to others :)
4) Be honest. Do not set yourself up for disaster.
Everyone wants to meet an honest person. Dishonesty is the
number one reason relationships fall apart. It is extremely
important that you portray yourself in an honest light prior
to meeting someone face to face. If you spend too much time
trying to be something you think others
will be attracted to, it will eventually come back to haunt
you and you will have hurt yourself and possibly others in
So, if you are an impulsive person, tell others you make quick
decisions and sometimes not the best ones :) Add that you seize
If you have a tendency to stray from God when things are going "well" in
your life, include this information in your list of personal
goals. This indicates that although you have faults, arrogance
is not one of them and that you are aware of where you need
help in your life. (Someone special might help to keep
you on track!!)
Do not tell others every bad detail about yourself! Be positive
in your profile, even about your faults. You want to show you
are honest but you also want to show your confidence and your
sense of humour in life. We all have our faults and those who
dwell on their faults are not fun to be around at the best
In short, dishonesty ruins relationships; honesty, mixed with
Joy, builds relationships which last.
5) Do not sit back and wait.
Once you have that new appealing profile created, the next
thing you need to do is write to others! Login
to your account, take the initiative and write to other
Christian singles! The best way to get mail from others is
to send mail yourself.
Christian singles on the site are waiting to receive mail,
so overcome your shyness and send off some letters! Your dating
profile still has to get some attention from singles you want
to meet so get the ball rolling and write to anyone who interests
you! As well, visit our Christian Chat rooms, joining other
singles in real-time conversation.
TIP: When you write others, be sure to read
their profiles so that your letters to them are more personalized.
Ask a question or two about them which they can answer for
you. This will increase the number of replies you receive :)
Also, include a few extra details which your profile does not
mention. This shows you have depth.
Be as active as you can on the Cafe. Login
to your account as often as you can and respond to any
mail you have received. Those who are online more often,
are involved in letter writing, sending Quick Messages, and
join in on the Chat room discussions consistently report
making more friends in the Cafe and even meeting that special
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